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I miscarried, while my best friend had a healthy baby. Is it time to move on from the friendship?

It’s hard to connect if you’re not really seeing each other, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, and there are only two ways of resolving it

The Guardian - AU · Feb 16, 2023

I’m technically an incel but not a misogynist. Why aren’t women attracted to me?

When we regard others as instantiations of a gender or as possible sexual partners, they can feel it, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith

The Guardian - AU · Feb 9, 2023

My husband and I run errands for a family dealing with a serious illness. Why do we feel used?

Your kindness has been a wonderful gift, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Recognise this is not an ordinary friendship and they will show their gratitude in time

The Guardian - AU · Feb 2, 2023

I’m experiencing family burn-out. I love my wife and kids, but I feel like I’m being used

You say your attempts to talk about this don’t get far, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but the situation won’t change unless you change it

The Guardian - AU · Nov 24, 2022

My boyfriend is addicted to his phone. Should I use spy software to be sure he’s cheating?

You don’t need to make yourself dishonest to prove someone else is – wanting to leave is reason enough

The Guardian - AU · Nov 3, 2022

I received a misdirected message that will devastate my wife. Can I skip telling her some parts?

While you can decide what to do with the information, it won’t change the facts, writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith

The Guardian - AU · Oct 20, 2022

In a season of weddings and baby showers, what can single people do to celebrate their lives?

Do you want a ritual defined by the absence of settling down, asks advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, or just one without its trappings?

The Guardian - AU · Oct 13, 2022

I really don’t want to get Covid, but the loneliness gets greater every day. How do I keep going?

Think of the precautions you take as marks of consideration, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. It’s easier to stand out for something you stand by

The Guardian - AU · Oct 6, 2022

I feel smothered by messages. My partner says she misses me, but it’s only been four hours!

What’s reasonable in a relationship is not a zero-sum game, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith – imagine you could both get what you want

The Guardian - AU · Sep 16, 2022

I have suppressed hatred for my stepmother. How do I have a relationship with my dad?

You say this woman set out to hurt your parents’ marriage, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but perhaps some of your anger is for your father too

The Guardian - AU · Sep 9, 2022