My boyfriend (29) of one and a half years is a wonderful, sweet soul and we have many shared values. I could see myself growing old with him. He occasionally does drugs (cocaine and ecstasy) with his former uni friends. I’ve never even smoked a cigarette and knowing he occasionally does drugs makes me uncomfortable. Even if it’s only at parties every few months, I worry about him having a bad batch and dying. It also feels very immoral due to all the human trafficking in the supply chain. It feels like a deal-breaker issue.
I’ve asked if he’d stop using drugs for the sake of our relationship. He said he would if he had children but would likely try them again once the kids are older. I’ve even tried to flag the dangers of bad batches and he’s pointed to the statistics that he’s more likely to be injured horse riding or doing extreme sports. He also feels like I’m imposing my views on to him and asked why I haven’t taken a strong view on him drinking at the weekends.
