The Latest Breaking News from Pamela Stephenson Connolly

My husband is more attractive than I am – and it makes me feel like an inadequate lover

He has a more typically masculine body, is older, more experienced and skilled in bed, and I am finding it increasingly difficult to perform

The Guardian - UK · Apr 29, 2025

I love my partner - but my desire for queer intimacy has become all-consuming

During a brief separation, I had my first sexual experiences with cis and trans women. They were ecstatic

The Guardian - UK · Apr 22, 2025

Should I stay with my partner – despite the dull, dispassionate sex?

I don’t need to swing from the rafters, but I do need something more than moderately paced sex in the missionary position ...

The Guardian - UK · Apr 15, 2025

My boyfriend wants us to move in together – but I need my independence and his dog won’t let us have sex

I used to struggle with living alone, but now I’m thriving. Should I give it all up?

The Guardian - UK · Mar 11, 2025

My wife and I haven’t had sex for three years – but I still have a healthy libido

We used to have sex once a week on a Sunday, but since the menopause there has been no choice but to abstain. What can I do?

The Guardian - UK · Feb 26, 2025

I muffle my cries of passion – but the noise is upsetting my partner’s teenager

Slammed doors and avoidant behaviour have alerted me to the 18-year-old’s discomfort. How can I persuade my lover that this is a problem?

The Guardian - UK · Feb 19, 2025

Our four dogs sleep on the bed – so I haven’t had sex with my wife in 10 years

My partner doesn’t seem to care about our sex life or my needs as her husband. Should I have an affair?

The Guardian - UK · Feb 11, 2025

My boyfriend knows I don’t orgasm – but not that I feel no pleasure in sex at all

When a partner touches me during foreplay, they may as well be touching my knee. What can I do?

The Guardian - UK · Feb 4, 2025

My partner reaches orgasm long before I do – then she loses all interest

It’s been like this for most of our 10 years together. I’m getting a little frustrated

The Guardian - UK · Jan 29, 2025

I love my husband – but his yellow teeth and back hair give me the ick

I don’t want to upset him, as he’s extremely proud and sensitive. But I am now having to grin and bear every sexual encounter we have

The Guardian - UK · Jan 20, 2025