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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Pamela Stephenson Connolly

Why can I only ever enjoy sex with a partner when we’re in the ‘honeymoon stage’?

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‘Why am I never aroused like before?’ Composite: Getty Images/Guardian Design. Posed by a model

I’m a 27-year-old woman. Each of my relationships starts out with a new, exciting honeymoon stage, which eventually gives way to me not caring about sex. Life gets in the way, with the kids and family problems, but why am I never, ever aroused like before? I have a recent disability that causes me pain, which isn’t helping the situation with my current partner. But I’m at the point where I think there’s something wrong internally, such as hormonal issues. I’m only 27, so getting a professional to check this out is nearly impossible.

Pain will certainly diminish sexual desire, so at the moment it is not surprising that you do not feel desirous or have difficulty becoming aroused or achieving orgasm.

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