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I am married – but I am having sex dreams about a colleague

I’ve recently become friends with someone at work and have developed feelings for him. I don’t want to make a mistake that will ruin my relationship

The Guardian - UK · Apr 4, 2023

Since having our third child my wife seems too busy for sex

I am a very sexual man, but my wife has so much to juggle that we aren’t as intimate as we once were. How can I reignite the spark?

The Guardian - UK · Mar 28, 2023

My wife told me all about her sexual past – and I am having mini panic attacks

She is far more matter-of-fact and open about sex than I am. I know this is my problem, not hers, but I am now troubled by intrusive thoughts

The Guardian - UK · Mar 22, 2023

I feel guilty for wanting a more kinky sex life than my partner can offer

We haven’t had sex for three years, during which time an affair reignited my love of kink. Now my partner wants to reconnect but I find myself recoiling from her

The Guardian - UK · Feb 14, 2023

I can’t climax quietly – and I’m worried my teenage kids will hear me

I have an active and enjoyable sex life with my husband, but I can’t reach orgasm without a great deal of drama. Should I try to be more restrained?

The Guardian - UK · Feb 7, 2023

I’m really happy with my boyfriend – so why don’t I want to have sex with him?

I used to have exciting sexual liaisons with men who treated me badly. Now I’ve found my soulmate, I don’t understand why he doesn’t turn me on

The Guardian - UK · Jan 31, 2023

My boyfriend is less experienced than me. How can I get him to relax and enjoy sex?

He has admitted to feeling anxious and wanting everything to be perfect. I know he will become more comfortable, in time, but is there anything I can do to help?

The Guardian - UK · Jan 24, 2023

My wife is so stressed by work she doesn’t want to have sex. What can I do?

I do my best to relax her but now we only have sex when she initiates it

The Guardian - UK · Jan 17, 2023

I love pleasuring my partner. But why do I never get anything in return?

It seems unfair to ask for something they may secretly dislike, but I feel as though my enjoyment is secondary

The Guardian - UK · Jan 10, 2023

I’m sexting my brother’s widow – and we’re both loving it. Should we stop for the sake of our families?

She says she has wanted me for ‘decades’, while I’m finally enjoying life after an abusive relationship. Would it be wrong to embrace this chance of happiness?

The Guardian - UK · Dec 20, 2022