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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Lifestyle
Doosie Morris

‘Not being jerks to each other helps’: readers on staying friends with an ex

Two women sitting on a couch with cups of tea
‘It’s important to be firm about boundaries’: readers on why they stay amicable with their ex-partners – and how they make it work. Photograph: SeventyFour Images/Alamy

A scorched-earth policy after a breakup might seem like the quickest option for some. But for others, it’s worth the effort to keep things sweet even when the romance has soured. Whether the motivation is shared children or pets, cost-of-living concerns or simply liking the person even if things didn’t work out as lovers, readers shared overwhelmingly positive experiences about staying friends with an ex.

While the transition came quite naturally for some, the consensus is it takes work and that each “post-dissolution friendship” is as unique as the reasons the former couple came together in the first place.

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