A wife has raised concerns about her husband's behaviour after he 'raged' at her for getting a lift home from a work do with a male colleague.
The woman, who says she has never cheated, sought advice online as she feared his reaction was due to his own guilty feelings.
People suspected that the husband is showing signs of 'projection' and accused him of considering or having an affair.
The wife, who thought she had a happy relationship with her hubby, says he now won't talk to her after what happened on Friday night.
Taking to Mumsnet this afternoon, the anonymous woman who goes by the username of 'Lurkerwithnewusername' explained how the change in attitude came a few weeks ago when she was at a house warming party with workmates.
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"One of the seniors is leaving so we decided to message an ex colleague to let him know that a position would be available soon and that he would be perfect for it. The ex-colleague is gay," the woman wrote.
"I mentioned it to DH [her husband] and he was raging that I had messaged another man. All a bit odd but I put it down to him having a bad day."
On Friday night, the woman was returning home from another work night out and bagged a lift with a female colleague and a male colleague.
"Male colleague is in a happy ltr [long-term relationship] with a baby on the way. DH knows this," she explained.
"Both of these colleagues live in my area and no one was drunk. DH is raging that I travelled home with a male. He isn't talking to me.
"We were alone for approx 1 minute after dropping off female colleague."
She added: "It would have been extremely odd for me to get a taxi myself when we all live so close. Not to mention more dangerous for me to be standing at an empty taxi rank myself at night.
"I have never given him a reason to distrust me. I have never cheated and never had any dodgy messaging with anyone. My relationship with DH isn't always perfect but I thought we were happy.
"This weird distrust is a new thing. I can't remember reactions like this for him before. Aibu [Am I being unreasonable] to put this down to him being fake angry due to his own guilt about his behaviour? And what are my next steps?
"He will never, ever admit to anything if he has had an affair/ons."
Many Mumsnet users responded pointing out the same red flag.
Ludo19 replied: "If it's a new pattern then I'd start to query.
"In my experience, it's a projection.....it's like judging you by their own standards of behaviour."
Another person - Lunalae - said: "For him to go from 'a bit crap' to 'raging jealous' I suspect he is projecting.
"He is the one considering, or having, the affair. He's getting away with it, highlighting how simple it is, and thus is taking it out on you.
"Or he's just always been a n*b."
Lurkerwithnewusername explained a bit more about the situation and wrote: "This is totally new behaviour from him. I've never noticed any jealousy before.
"His general behaviour hasn't changed. He works erratic shifts that often run late but this isn't a new thing."
DorothyZbornakIsAQueen confidently replied: "100% he is projecting."
After multiple users accused the husband of cheating, the woman added: "That's what I'm thinking.
"I can't see any other reason for his over the top and ridiculous response."
What do you think? Let us know in the comments.
