I want closure – but do I have a hope of ever getting it?

Some say closure doesn’t exist. But that doesn’t stop us from pursuing it. Illustration: Rita Liu/The Guardian

My friend Roisin has written an email for her ex. It’s good: funny, open, kind. She writes that she feels bad about how they ended things, and wants to extend an olive branch.

Roisin wants to know if I think she should send it. “Is this a terrible idea?” she asks.