When you’re in love, you are not a philosopher. You are a clown with Wi-Fi. So spare me the “communicate openly” advice. That only works when both people are emotionally mature, which is never during a breakup. You get them back by being unavailable, regulated, and mildly terrifying in how okay you are without them. Most people don’t lose their ex because of the breakup. They lose them in the weeks after - by oversharing, overexplaining, and emotionally free-shipping themselves. This is how you stop that spiral.
