Nobody wants to be told they’re bad in bed. It’s surely one of the most crippling comments a person can receive: you know that thing that dominates the discourse, dictates and disrupts power dynamics, and is basically tantamount to our survival as social human beings? Yeah, you’re just not very good at it and should probably stop trying. Sorry.
Of course, as anyone who’s paused to consider what sex actually means will know, there is no such thing as someone being bad in bed. There’s only bad sexual chemistry between two people who, in all likelihood, either aren’t sexually compatible, or good enough at communicating with each other. But the good news is that these are things you can (and should) work on before giving up altogether.
