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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Lifestyle
As told to Doosie Morris

‘We chose not to blow up our life’: readers on surviving infidelity

Composite of a young heterosexual looking into each other's eyes, while in the background a man walks away.
‘Despite it all, I’ve never doubted my husband’s love’: readers on how their relationships survived after cheating. Photograph: Maksim Kostenko/Alamy

What counts as infidelity varies from couple to couple and how they choose to handle it is also unique. A drunken kiss on the dancefloor might be innocuous to some; for others, a relationship-ending catastrophe.

How readers chose to approach their straying partners varied dramatically depending on the length and nature of their relationship and what shape the outside encounter took. If families and mutual assets were involved – and other relationship factors were stable – readers tended to double down on commitments, opting to frame such transgressions as an opportunity for growth and refreshment. And the further down the road couples had travelled together, the more likely they would stay together post-infidelity.

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