A woman has revealed three questions which determine whether your partner is the one for you – including “how would you feel if they were your child.”
Courtney Empey, 27, wasn’t sure whether she should get back with an ex when he wanted to give their relationship another go.
She was given some “invaluable” advice by her nurse who told her to ask three key questions to help her make her decision.
They were: “Would you be happy if this person was your child?” and “If this person was dating your child, how would you feel?”
She was also told to ponder: “If this person was to be the father of your children, how would you feel?”
After evaluating her answers, she decided to give her relationship another try and wanted to share the words of wisdom with others who are in the same predicament.
Empey, a social media manager, from Toronto, Ontario, Canada, said: “I told my nurse that my ex had come back to me, and I didn’t know what to do and she said I had to ask myself these questions.
“She told me to think: “If this person was your child, would you be happy?”
“And also: “If this person was dating your child, how you would feel?”
“And the last one was: “If this person was going to be the father of your children, how would you feel?”
“It takes the emotion away from the decision and makes you actually look at whether the person fits your standards.
“You then have to be honest with yourself and come back to your feelings and work out if you really love this person and if they support you and make you a better version of yourself.”
Empey realized the standards and qualities she wanted in a life partner after asking herself those questions.
“I worked out I wanted someone polite and courageous as I would want that for my child,” she said.
“I decided that I did then want to give things a go with my ex, but we are taking it slow.
“Lots of people have then tried this and realized they don’t want to be with that person.
“I think it is important that once you have looked if they meet your standards that you bring your feelings back into it.
“They could perfectly meet your standards but if you don’t love them then it’s not the right guy for you.”
Empey has helped lots of her social media followers figure out if their partner is the one for them by using the three questions.
“People have told me that it’s helped them break up with someone or work out that he is Mr. Right,” she said.
“I think this is a great way to properly evaluate if you want to be with that person.”
Produced in association with SWNS.
