If you’ve ever found yourself redoing a chore your partner “messed up,” reminding them about appointments, or quietly handling every household detail because “it’s just easier,” you’re not alone. A growing number of relationship experts are calling this pattern weaponized incompetence. The term describes a dynamic where one partner repeatedly avoids responsibility by acting unable, confused, or unreliable. Whether intentional or not, the result is often the same: one person carries the mental load while the other gets away with doing far less.
