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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Phil Daoust

The loneliness trap: it is said to be as bad as smoking. So will it shorten my lifespan?

Phil Daoust with his staffie cross Sienna.
‘Is it wrong to call a dog darling?’ … Phil Daoust with Romanian rescue Sienna. Photograph: Anselm Ebulue/The Guardian

I don’t spend a lot of time worrying about a lonely old age. Closing in on my 61st birthday, eight years into a very happy marriage, I’ve got a wife, two teenage stepkids, an older daughter by an ex, a grandson and four siblings. Most of them at least tolerate me; a few even tell me that they love me. But maybe I’m taking too much for granted. People die, drift apart, fall out – and anyone who knows me will tell you that I can be very irritating.

Fifteen or 20 years from now it’s not inconceivable that none of my family will want to have much to do with me.

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