The first thing I do when I match with someone on a dating app is google them. It feels important to know from the jump if someone is, say, a raging psychopath or — worse — a vocal conservative. If they’re on social media, though, I opt not to troll because I’m not interested in seeing someone’s awkward “pick me” selfie face before we even kiss. If they’re not on social media at all, I am instantly intrigued. Just the idea of a person being so confident that they don’t need to be validated by likes is like a magic boner pill to me. It’s hard for me to explain why I think dating someone with no social media is hot, so I decided to search for a little clarity on it.
“It can seem very mature to make a decision to avoid the often shallow, hyper-commercialized, internet echo chamber,” Stefani Goerlich, a Detroit-based psychotherapist. I agree; it seems like if someone isn’t wasting their time looking interesting on the internet, they may actually be interesting people IRL. That interpretation may be partially based on how rare social media abstinence is right now.
