I have a close friend who I love and care about very much, who is struggling to assert herself against what her family want for her. She doesn’t know what she wants to do – career wise – but she comes from a family who have quite vocal expectations for her future, and a fairly narrow view of what counts as success.
I am lucky to have always been taught very differently, and I recognise that her family are just looking out for her, but I can see the damage it does and I want to help. I also don’t want to judge and I am of course wary of criticising people she loves. I am happy to just be a shoulder to cry on, or someone to be positive and supportive, rather than just giving the opposite lectures. But I equally want her to see that she doesn’t have to make herself do things that make her miserable just to satisfy her family. Shall I talk to her about it, or is it best to say nothing?
