A mum has said she wants to change the name of her newborn baby but her mother-in-law has already had it tattooed on her arm.
The mum says she is torn over the "nightmare" situation but feels her son's original name isn't for him, and that both she and her partner have had a "change of heart" and are determined to change his name.
Writing on Mumsnet, she says she "feels awful" because her mother-in-law immediately got the baby's name tattooed on her arm, even though he is just two weeks old.
Both parents were unaware of her plans, she writes.
In a post titled " MIL tattooed DS's name...", she wrote: "We have just had a baby two weeks ago, MIL immediately tattooed baby boy's name on her arm.
"However, we have since had a change of heart re the name... What a nightmare! We didn't ask her to or knew she was doing it, it's obviously really sweet of her to do it so that's not the problem it's more just now we don't want to call him that.
"I feel awful! How on earth do we handle this? I'm really trying to talk myself into keeping the name, but it doesn't sit right..."
The post received more than 100 responses from other Mumsnet users.
One wrote: "Can you use that as the middle name so she can just add the "new" first name to the front?"
Another said: "It's really not your problem, to be honest. It was entirely her decision, and not something most people would do. You're entirely within your rights to change your minds, it's still very early days and you're only getting to know him."
A third commented: "Oh yikes. Perhaps she should have waited until you registered the baby.... Erm... can you live with that name or does it just really not work?"
Another Mumsnet user said: "I agree with the suggestion to keep it as a middle name- you liked it enough so maybe it will work better as a middle? She could then add his name to the tattoo. To be honest she was a bit premature to do it after only 2 weeks but I definitely would not want to upset my MIL so I'd try to find a compromise."
One wrote: "No way would I keep a name I didn't actually want to use because someone had decided to tattoo it on their body. Use the name you like. She can have laser removal or a cover-up."
One user called the mother-in-law "daft".
They wrote: "She's daft for doing it so quickly, she could have waited. He's your son so if you prefer a different name then go for it."
Another Mumsnet user questioned if the situation was real.
One said: "I'm struggling to believe this actually, but if it's true, it's her problem, not yours. You can't give your child a name you no longer like, simply to avoid upsetting some loon who got a tattoo done!"
One Mumsnet user asked if her mother-in-law already had tattoos, to which the mum replied: "Yes she has all her kids and GC's [grandchildren's] names already. It's not massive but it's right near her wrist and has its own area, there's no mistaking it's there! I can't handle this level of awkwardness, I'm really not good with stuff like this."
