Mother's Day can be a time for celebration, with mums all across the UK being recognised for the hard work they do on a daily basis. But it can also be a difficult time for many reasons.
Mumsnet is filled with Mother's Day opinions and discussions, from gift ideas to things to do with the kids. But one woman took to Mumsnet to express her disappointment over her Mother's Day gift this year.
The Mumsnet user, who is heavily pregnant, revealed her anger and disappointment over how little effort her husband went to to mark the special day. Most other users agreed with her frustration and said that she has every right to be upset.
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The original post was made on Sunday, March 27. Mumsnet user 5upermum posted: "Mother to toddler and currently 10 days overdue with second baby. Husband has basically made zero effort for this awful thing called Mother’s Day, despite me asking him to book something nice like a lunch or ANYTHING for us to do that isn’t exhausting at this stage of pregnancy.
"My gifts were a watering can, which has been sat in the car boot for a month and I’ve seen it every time I open it, even though I already own one, and an empty picture frame. No flowers, no breakfast, no cup of tea, no taking toddler so I can have a lie in.
"I’ve had quite a difficult end of pregnancy and have been quite unwell, now very uncomfortable and overdue. His reasoning for not booking or doing anything was “in case baby comes”, but I wasn’t aware this stopped him from at least bringing me a cup of tea or saying “Happy Mother’s Day”.
"I know lots of people don’t celebrate it, or think it’s a load of rubbish, but I’ve always made such a big deal for Father’s Day and he knows that I wanted at least some fuss given that I’m feeling miserable and huge. He’s apologised for not doing anything, but I’m just upset that I feel so overlooked. Motherhood has been such a struggle recently and one day of fuss would have really cheered me up. Pathetic, I know. Just needed a rant I guess, I don’t feel I’m being totally unreasonable but maybe I am?"
The post picked up hundreds of reactions and comments. Mums rallied to support the user, reassuring her that her feelings were valid. Some offered advice on what to do in the future.
LizzoBennet said: "You are right to be annoyed OP (original poster). If I were you I would have sent your DH (darling husband) downstairs with your toddler and laid in. Sometimes you just have to take what you deserve!
"I'd also suggest that you tell your DH to book a table at your favourite restaurant for next weekend. It isn't the thoughtful day you want but he won't bother in the future either if you don't shove push him in the right direction now. You shouldn't have to...but you don't want this happening every year!"
ElliotGoss said: "I don't think you are pathetic. I would have been upset too. If the baby did come you would have had enough warning for someone to cancel the lunch plans surely?"
Some people said that they understood why 5upermum's husband did not book lunch. They said that as she is 10 days overdue, this would have been silly.
Mumsnet user thewhatsit commented: "To be fair, I’m not sure I’d book a table somewhere at 10 days overdue! I’d feel awful if I cancelled last minute and the restaurant lost business and there is a chance you’d have to pay a deposit for Mother’s Day anyway. But yes tell him you require a break today and he can take the toddler to soft play this afternoon please."
While most mums agreed with the original post and supported the mum in her disappointment, others thought she was being unreaslistic. TheSnowyOwl said: "Whilst I think you have big expectations for Mother’s Day so I can see it’s easy to feel let down, have you ever told him what you want and what it means to you? If not, I’d suggest doing so and his view of it so at least you can be realistic about what to expect in future."
And some people thought the original poster deserved effort every single day since she is overdue with her second baby. Merrymouse said: "Never mind Mother’s Day, at this stage in pregnancy he should be bringing you a cup of tea and looking after the toddler anyway!"
Nidan2Sandan said: "OP, I hear you. You just want some acknowledgement and a little effort. Clearly a toddler is too young to figure it out themselves and DH could have "helped" them do something, even to make a card or a picture and bring it to you with a cuppa.
"I don't want gifts on Mother's day, I just want a bit of thought. I don't ask to be waited on hand and foot or anything, but a cuppa and a bar of chocolate can go a long way."
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