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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Robyn Vinter

‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps

An illustration of a man and woman facing away from each other on their phones, with the man thinking about a heart emoji and the woman a vomiting emoji
All illustrations: Nishant Choksi/The Guardian Illustration: Nishant Choksi/The Guardian

Lacey deleted dating apps from her phone a couple of years ago and has never looked back – and not because she met the man of her dreams. The 55-year-old social worker now spends her weekends on the dancefloors of illegal nightclubs in north London’s Turnpike Lane, unlicensed venues where people go to let loose. “I meet so many men,” she says enthusiastically. She will often go out alone to these clubs where, she says, men outnumber women. “Recently, I met a younger man with an amazing body. It was probably the best sex of my life.”

As for her relationship status? “I’m always in a state of flux.” Lacey’s approach might not suit everyone looking for love, but she is one of a growing number of people rejecting swiping on a screen and taking their dating lives offline.

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