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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Stacey Duguid

‘I’ll be bonking into my 80s’: how I saw off the symptoms of menopause

Menopause Hormones
Illustration of woman lying on bed behind cocktail
Middle-aged women don’t need to turn their back on sex. Illustration: Kaja Merle/The Guardian

It’s amazing how three little letters can encompass something so big. From sexual identity to sexual pleasure, sex can mean so many things. But what about sexual wellness? And what does sexual wellness, in the context of menopause, even mean?

Wildly open to interpretation, I’d say my sexual wellness anchors around three things: the mind (as in desire or lack of), the body (relating to both comfort and discomfort), and the soul (should I really be enjoying/pursuing sex given the broader stereotypical view when it comes to older women and sex?).

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