GRRRRRRRRRR…
Written by Barbara Huson
Nothing gets in the way of financial success more than repressed anger.
In my experience, women in general hold a tremendous amount of unexpressed anger, though few realize it.
I certainly did but had no idea. Until a therapist pointed out that I was carrying a lot of repressed rage, which was holding me hostage, unable to move forward.
As I worked on discharging my wrath, I had a revelation. Anger is simply energy. Repressed anger immobilizes. Released anger galvanizes.
When you find healthy ways to let go of resentment, you begin to notice a direct link between anger and power. Suppressing one inhibits expressing the other.
If you suspect you, too, may have some buried anger, I invite you to write an angry letter. Write it to your parents or ex-husband or maybe yourself. Write it by hand, not on a computer.
When you’re finished, burn the letter. As you watch it burn, say to your anger: “Thank you. You served me once. I no longer need you. I release you. Now I am free.”
Or try physically moving it out of your body. Slap the wall hard with a towel. Go outside and vigorously hurl ice cubes at the street. Dance out your anger to heavy metal music.
What if you’ve done anger releasing exercises ad nauseum, and damn it, you’re still angry?
Ask yourself this question: What is my payoff for holding onto anger? Why don’t I want to let it go?
Believe me, the anger is giving you something. Usually, it’s a false or cheap sense of power, invulnerability, and autonomy.
When you finally free yourself, something incredible happens. You can forgive and move on. Then watch how much lighter you feel and how much easier life becomes.
What payoff do you think you’re getting from your anger? Tell me in the comments below.
