Planning a trip with friends can be a fun yet daunting task. Firstly, it’s so difficult to match schedules and settle on a date. Once that’s done, the debate about choosing a destination and dividing responsibilities begins. And let’s not forget the inevitable chaos of food and activity preferences. Well, it’s all worth it when you finally travel together with your best friends. But sometimes things don’t go according to plan.
For instance, a woman from the United States excitedly spent months planning a trip to San Francisco with her best friend. However, just weeks before leaving, her bestie told her that she had not booked her plane ticket and would not come for their vacation. The woman shared details about how her trip turned into a solo adventure on TikTok. Below, you’ll find all the details about the incident.
Traveling with friends is an opportunity to create fun memories
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An American TikToker shared how she had meticulously planned a trip for months, only to be ditched by her best friend at the last minute
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A couple years ago I was planning a trip to San Francisco. It was my first time being in California ever, and I wasn’t going to be there long, I was going to get tattooed. My best friend at the time was all about going.
I’m very much a type A planner when it comes to a trip. I am all about planning where we stay, an itinerary, what we’re going to do, where we’re going to go, where we’re going to eat. I love doing that stuff. I love planning a really good trip. So she basically left everything to me. All she had to do was buy her plane ticket.
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I planned this trip months in advance, it had to be at least four or five months in advance. So she had multiple months to buy the ticket and to prepare. Within that time, we were chatting it up the whole time, it’s going to be so fun when we go there. Oh my gosh, we’re going to do this, we’re going to do that.
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Then, like two weeks before we’re supposed to go, we’re in the gym and I’m saying, ‘Oh, hey, when you can, can you pay your half of the Airbnb?’ And this [jerk] tells me, “Oh, about that. I never bought my ticket. And also I’m not going.”
Excuse me? So you’ve been lying to me for the past multiple months, and now I’m supposed to go to California alone? Yes, that’s exactly what she was doing. She lied to me for multiple months and then told me right before.
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I still wanted to go. I still wanted to get my tattoo. A lot of my friends were surprised that I was still going to go anyway.
I still went. It was in January of 2020, right before COVID hit and changed the game of traveling forever, so I really got it in right under the wire. I honestly had the best time. I did all the things I wanted to do, I ate all the foods I wanted to eat, and I did everything on my time, and I had the best solo trip ever. It was amazing.
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Me and that friend, we stayed friends for multiple years after that, but we recently ended our friendship, and I’ll tell you why. Just like she was a liar then, she’s still a liar now. If you have close friends who lie to you, cut ties. End it. It’s going nowhere. If you have friends that don’t even respect you enough to tell you the truth, there is no point in being friends, save yourself the agony.
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People spend a considerable amount of time planning their vacations
Planning for our holidays is something that many of us put much time and effort into. We all want our vacation to be fun, cheap, and definitely perfect; therefore, we spend time looking for pocket-friendly places and inexpensive flights. Based on a recent travel study by Priceline and The Harris Polls, about 22% of U.S. adults take an equivalent of two work days or nearly 16 hours planning and booking a trip.
For Gen Z and Millennials, that number jumps by over 30%, reaching more than 20 hours. For them, reading reviews, checking ratings, seeing local attractions, and seeking out new adventures is important.
Digital natives usually like staying in hotels or Airbnbs where they can find more than just beds; they want unique experiences as well as modern amenities. Many times, they need fast, free Wi-Fi because being connected is crucial for them. In comparison with boomers, Gen Z spends 67% more time researching hotels or properties that suit their requirements.
Nowadays, many people also look for travel ideas on social media channels. Almost one-third of Generation Z travelers say that browsing Instagram and TikTok posts is one of the most exciting parts of organizing their holiday.
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Last-minute cancelations have become the new normal
Once we find the best deals and book everything, we are set to enjoy our well-planned vacation. However, sometimes things do not go as planned since there might be a few hiccups along the way. From unexpected flight cancelations to personal emergencies, last-minute changes to your travel plans can throw everything. While you do not control such circumstances, what about when people randomly cancel plans?
We turn to our friends for support through life’s ups and downs and everything in-between. People who are close to us make every moment special, even if it means doing nothing together. This is why it breaks your heart when they don’t show up.
Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, a Philadelphia-based therapist, pointed out, “If somebody is canceling on us at the last minute when they told us that we could rely on them being there, then that shakes that sense of security. It can also bring up feelings of being abandoned, rejected, or disrespected.”
Last-minute cancelations have become the norm, according to The Wall Street Journal. But while bailing out once in a while may not be a big deal, over time it can cause a strain on any relationship.
Every time your friend ditches you, it chips away at the trust and reliability you expect from them. Eventually, these frequent letdowns might make you feel as though your best friend doesn’t appreciate you or your time. In this kind of situation, talking about how you feel and setting boundaries are essential for maintaining your friendship and well-being.
When plans fall through, especially for trips or adventures, it might prevent you from making memories and enjoying life to the fullest. In Liz’s situation, she had put so much work into planning and booking the trip together with her best friend. For her friend to wait until the last second to tell her she couldn’t come was inconsiderate. What would your reaction be if a friend did this? Could you forgive them?
Many people were pleased that the woman went ahead and enjoyed a solo trip
Others recounted similar incidents of being abandoned by their friends
