More than half of adults wouldn’t dream of telling a partner about their need to self-pleasure – but 39% feel guilty if they do it in secret.
The survey of 2,000 adults revealed 81% don’t feel confident enough to discuss their solo sexual needs.
And only 36% own a sex toy – but of those who don’t, 11% would be embarrassed if anyone knew they owned one, while 10% wouldn’t know which sex toy to start with as a beginner.
However, 18% feel empowered by how sex toys and women’s health is represented in today’s culture.
It also emerged that despite 28% admitting their partner is more open about their habits, over a third would feel embarrassed talking about it in the same manner.
Gemma Collins, speaking on behalf of Durex as part of her collaboration with the brand, which commissioned the research, said: “Huns! Why do we all still view self-love and sex toys with so much embarrassment, it's 2022!
“The GC knows we all need to go on our own journey when it comes to pleasure, but why put up roadblocks for ourselves and each other with all this old-fashioned stigma?
“I think self-love is an amazing gift that we should celebrate. It can make us feel empowered, satisfied and stress-free – what’s better than that?”
The survey also found more than a third admitted they haven’t been achieving their sexual pleasure needs, with more than two-thirds naming a sex toy as an essential part of helping them reach climax.
Nearly two in three think masturbation and sex toys are a taboo subject, while 15% would talk more openly about it if there wasn’t such a stigma around being open about pleasure.
Just under a tenth wish their friends spoke more openly about sex toy usage, while almost one in three (31%) would feel more confident buying and using a sex toy if they knew someone else who did.
On average, it took five years before those who were sexually active started experimenting with sex toys.
But just two-fifths would feel very confident in introducing new things to their sex life.
When asked how masturbation makes them feel, the top feelings were satisfied, relaxed and happy.
However, 16% feel guilty, while 13% feel embarrassed and 11% feel nervous.
Of those who took part in the survey, carried out through OnePoll, 35% would feel more confident in achieving what they want sexually if the topic was discussed more openly in the media.
Nikki Hayward, wellness category manager at Durex, added: “We are thrilled to have partnered with Gemma Collins on the launch of an exciting new range of sex toys from Durex.
“We love how empowered Gemma feels about achieving the pleasure she knows she deserves for herself – and want everyone else to feel the same.
“Let’s hope this encourages us all to have more open and honest conversations about masturbation and the use of sex toys, whether on your own or with someone else.
“We hope that people can shake off the stigma and ditch the taboo, feelings of shame and embarrassment, on something that should be a way to feel real pleasure, enjoyment and satisfaction.”
