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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Bee Wilson

Death, divorce and the magic of kitchen objects: how to find hope in loss

Vintage kitchen utensils, cooking, food and drink, culinary concept.
‘Things can have a second life – and a third and fourth – even if people can’t.’ Photograph: thomas-bethge/Getty Images/iStockphoto

I have long felt that kitchen objects can have a life of their own. Even so, I found this eerie. One August day in 2020, I was going to fetch clothes out of the washing machine when suddenly a cake tin fell at my feet with a loud clang. It wasn’t just any cake tin. It was the heart-shaped tin I had used to bake my own wedding cake. I wouldn’t have thought much of it except that it was only two months since my husband had left me, out of the blue.

Nearly 23 years ago, this giant metal heart had been brand new. My husband-to-be had told me he liked fruit cake but hated glace cherries. For our wedding, I decided to bake him a rich, dark fruit cake with no cherries and chopped-up dried apricots to take their place. There are photos of us cutting the cake together looking blissfully happy. We would soon be on our way to Venice for our honeymoon.

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