Starting your first full-time job is exciting, but it can also bring pressure, especially when family expectations and personal financial goals don’t fully match.
A Reddit user shared that she will be starting her full time software engineering position in Bangalore. Her expected monthly in-hand salary will be around ₹1.0–1.15 lakh per month.
Current situation: Rent: ₹16k/month Personal expenses: ₹5-10k/month No education loans No debt No Savings currently.
Family Financial Expectations and Pressure
She further said During my internship, I have been sending a large share of my income to my family. While there is no urgent financial crisis, there is a strong expectation that most of my earnings should support the household. My parents often question the need for me to save or keep money for myself, and they see family support as my main financial responsibility. They are also planning to build a house in the future and expect a significant portion of the funding to come from my income, even though it will not be in my name and my sibling is not expected to contribute equally.
She further said that “I love my family and want to support them, but at the same time I feel conflicted. I'm about to start my career and I don't want to reach my mid-20s with no investments, no assets, and no financial independence despite earning a decent salary.”
