Choosing what to wear on your wedding day can be difficult - there are so many options, and it feels like the day is almost upon you, even if it's months and months away. Whether you opt for a 'traditional' long white wedding dress, or something a little more 'modern', such as a jumpsuit, or a white suit, wedding fashion really does depend on who is getting married.
One woman was furious, however, when her wife-to-be did a 180 after saying she didn't want to wear a dress, suddenly deciding that rather than a suit, she wanted to opt for a gown. She took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to ask whether she was in the wrong for being annoyed - and she was criticised by many.
She explained: "My (29 Female) fiancée (30 Female) have plans to get married early next year. Before the engagement, we talked about our wedding day and what that would look like for both of us.
"When it came down to what we would both wear, I expressed that I would like to be the only one in a wedding dress as I personally do not want pictures of us both in wedding dresses and I wanted to have that moment for me in the dress.
"I honestly do believe that some pictures that I have seen are so beautiful of two women in wedding dresses however I have seen some where I am just not a fan. Nonetheless, my then-girlfriend, agreed and said she would not be wearing a dress and that she would wear a jumpsuit or some type of femme suit. The conversation moved on and it was never really discussed again.
"Fast forward to a year or so later and we are now engaged. After we got engaged, the parents of my fiancée were disappointed to know she was not going to be wearing a dress however my fiancée, without any thoughts from me, told her parents that she was going to be wearing something else and that was that. A dress just wasn't an option for her.
"Fast forward to two months of being engaged when my fiancée calls me and tells me that she went outfit shopping with a friend today for the wedding and started trying on dresses and actually found one that she loves. I was livid and angry and frustrated and just sad.
"I got really angry with her and told her she could not wear a dress. I didn't want that to be my reaction to her but it was and I honestly hate that it was.
"I know I am marrying a freaking woman. I do NOT have a problem with that. And I know that it's me being selfish because honestly I wanted to be the only one in a wedding dress that day and I thought that was something we already decided on.
"I get I am marrying the person and should love them no matter what they are wearing and that that is the most important thing but this is something that I just can't get over. I also understand that this is her wedding day too but like we discussed this!!! How can she just change her mind?
"At the end of the day if she REALLY wants this how can I say no but a part of me will just be a bit p***** that she went back on what she said she was going to do. So people of Reddit, am I the a**hole?"
In the comments, people were shocked at her reaction, telling her she was being unfair towards her wife-to-be.
Someone wrote: "You already said what everyone will say: it's her wedding too, she's entitled to change her mind about deferring to your wants, it is selfish to put yourself at the centre of the wedding as it's about both of you, You're the a**hole. Take tonight to be p***** and tomorrow move forward as you are marrying the woman of your dreams."
"I feel like the original poster is very controlling and has toxic femininity traits. It's best if they end it now and not get married save the heartache/divorce", another agreed.
Someone defended the bride-to-be though, commenting: "Yes original poster is being an a** but sometimes people get emotional about stupid stuff and sometimes (all times) relationships have conflicts.
"The default answer is not 'better call off the whole relationship' based on one tiny sniping of a relationship you know nothing about."
Another fumed: "The original poster is insanely self-centered. It's ok for her to want a special moment in a dress, but her partner isn't allowed? Controlling and selfish bulls*** served on a platter."
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