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Woman Shares How Her Boyfriend Abandoned Her In The Mountains, 79 Others Chime In Sharing Similar Stories

Alpine Divorce Florida

The concept of “Alpine divorce” refers to someone ending whatever involvement they’ve had with another person—be it a committed relationship or just a fling—and leaving them behind in the wilderness, usually in a remote and unfamiliar place.

It sounds scary and cruel, and I hope you’re one of the people who find it incredibly hard to imagine who could do such a thing. However, the phenomenon is gaining attention across social media, and quite a few women have come forward, saying they’ve experienced it firsthand.

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My ex husband left me in the middle of the ocean. We were diving in San Maarten and he left me and swam back to the boat and convinced them I was on the boat. We were exploring a shipwreck and I turned around to find him and he was gone. Came up to the surface, no boat, no land, nothing. I had a compass on my gear so I started swimming. Eventually came upon a catamaran and they took me back to port.

I couldn’t possibly respond to everyone. So here are some answers: 1) yes, attempted m****r but he and the boat crew and the police all decided it was a big mistake and that it was probably my fault for not paying attention. 2) If you’ve never been in an abusive relationship, you cannot speak to this and ask why I didn’t leave. 3) when I tried to leave, he actually tried to k*ll me with his own hands in my home in front of one of our children. 4) the final attempt on my life he was arrested.

Felony Attempted m****r. This charge was eventually dropped to a misdemeanor, he was fined $258, sentenced to pick up trash on the freeway for a few weekends, and an anger management class. 5) You can see the system in action right now. Absolutely no consequences for violence against women and children. 6) No book and no movie. 7) I did not m****r him and he is remarried last I heard. 8) I divorced him over 20 years ago and this happened in 2005. 9) He was a business owner and everyone loved him. 10. BELIEVE WOMEN

luv_catsdogsbirds:
In a relationship, a man's worst fear is getting laughed at. A woman's worst fear is getting physically attacked

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My husband and I were hiking Virginia mountains. Got to the peak. He said I could throw you off this peak. No one would ever know. My dog and self headed back down. Calmly not to show any anxiety. Got to my car and left him there. 6 hours from home to date. I do not know how he got back. I called my dad and brother. To confront, they did. He packed some clothes. My dad had words and I filed for divorce next day. Brother stayed overnight. He was a cop.

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Thomas Plamberger was recently convicted for this very thing. She passed, and he had abandoned a previous girlfriend at the exact same location.

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My ex was this type of person. He used literal abandonment as a control tactic. He’d leave me at the store if I took too long, leave without me if we planned to go somewhere, and he’d often threaten to leave me on the side of the road in the country, knowing I didn’t have anyone to call who’d be able to come help. My husband has explicitly said that he will never do this, even if we are in a fight. Which should be the standard, not a f**king gold star. But thanks to men like my ex, here we are.

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My ex-husband abandoned me while snorkeling in Hawaii as well. We were out snorkeling when we heard dolphins and we same toward the direction we thought they were in. Before I knew it I couldn’t see the bottom of the ocean anymore just deep blue nothingness. I got scared because I know there are sharks in Hawaii and I couldn’t see the ocean floor anymore. I asked him to stay with me and then in that same moment he saw a dolphin and just took off and left me all alone and freaked out.While I was still married I would laugh and tell the story about him taking off when he saw the dolphin thinking it was cute. After I left him I finally realized how f**ked up it was that he left me in the big blue after I asked him to stay. I also realized that this kind of behavior was all over my marriage. Your story sounds much worse and scarier than mine and I’m so sorry your ex boyfriend did this to you and then gaslit you about it. Men are impulsive and dangerously self-centered.

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My ex husband was a competitive swimmer, I was not a swimmer at all. We lived in the Middle East, he swam everyday in open waters, I didn't even swim in the pool. Went out for my first open water swim across the lagoon where we lived I got to the middle and panicked looked for him and he swam Diagonally and completely left me. He also left me in the dust on a 40 mile bike ride through the badlands in the rain. I tried my best to keep up and the rain just washed my tears away, he never knew.
lisabramhill:
He knew just like we know what an a**. And I’m trying to be polite.

danielle.nicole.west:
Yes, he definitely knew what he was doing but he didn't know I cried over it. I actually look back and think he wanted me to die. There were many signs to make me think that. Not only physical things he did to me but things like swimming off like he did knowing I wasn't a strong swimmer or even a swimmer at all. Actually, he point blank told me he wished I would d*e.

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At a cafe in Switzerland, my ex asked me to wait for him so he could grab his belongings. 2 hours went by, he left me there. I went and caught a train to another country and I never spoke to him again. The "loml" left me outside of his friend's apt building so he could go to a bar (3AM). I had flown to the state to see him... I had to call my bff to get me a ride back to his house. I came into these relationships without ever experiencing abandonment. I ended up humiliated by these tactics.

paytonashleighn:
Oh man…. I came into my current ending/ended relationship with abandonment and all I’ve gotten since being with him is abandonment… this is eye opening reading all of these

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Oh there was a recent case in which a guy left his girlfriend on a mountain, she was found d**d from hypothermia hanging over the ledge. He left her with no supplies, turned off his phone, failed to raise the alarm, got back and went to sleep. Had done it before to an ex who survived. The outcome? 5 month suspended sentence, less than 10k euro fine. Even if they succeed in k***ing you they don’t face justice.

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My ex insisted on climbing this mountain when the sun was about to set. I told him i was uncomfy, he didnt care. It was either wait by myself in his car at the bottom or go with him and i went and on the way back down, it was pitch black. So i couldnt even see the ground while trying to go back down. Could have easily broken my ankle & he left me..went right on ahead of me and told me to hurry up..he was abusive as hell but that was when i really saw how much he didnt give a f**k about me

megannnsssss:
This is such a nightmare. Like he didn't need to go to that damn mountain!

brebangtan:
He really didnt. And his logic was if we move faster, it’ll be fine and i was like dude! It takes 2 hours to get to the top at moderate pace. So 4 hours in total..It was around 5 pm and the sun was setting at like 7. On the way down i was like I TOLD YOU!! And he was just like HURRY UP and left me lol i was like oh yea this guy hates my guts. And then when i did finally get to the bottom and we were in the car, all he kept saying was that we made it so i had no reason to be mad. I was silently plotting my escape the entire ride home

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4-ish years ago I had a huge argument with my family and my ex husband of 7y realised he was not getting any more easy money from my grandparents (me wanting to not depend on that being the whole reason for the fight) so he called his daddy to buy him a ticket home, and f**ked off back to Brazil. Badmouthed me to EVERYONE. We had newly arrived in Belgium, I was recovering from depression, had no job yet, 600€ to my name, two cats to care for, and had to leave the Airbnb I was in in 15 days. When I dared to speak about the sh*t situation he’d left me I got called everything from crazy to GOLD DIGGER (????). I am in a phenomenal moment of life now with a much better partner, but I still deal with the psychological repercussions of this abandonment and betrayal, as well as the f**king bureaucratic ones which drive me crazy (I’m a dual citizen and it’s hell)

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A man just [took out] his girlfriend like this in Australia

keisterscotty:
I read that. It was Austria. He was given a five months suspended sentence.

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My ex abandoned me my first time snorkeling ever in Hawaii. I had just moved 4000 miles to be with him. It was maybe my third day there. We had to watch a safety video before going that talked about the dangers and always staying in pairs and sign a sheet saying we watched the video and would follow the rules. He left almost immediately. At first I was sad, no one to point out cool things to, no one to tell when I saw a turtle. I was confident and naive. Then the tide went out. One of the rules in the video was that the reef was alive and stepping on it could k*ll protected wild life, some of which is also poisonous and venemous so don’t touch it. When the tide went out there wasn’t enough space between the top of the reef and the top of the water to swim. I remember floating trying to make myself as small and shallow as I could, while also desperately trying to figure out how to get off the reef and back to shore. I started to panic. I made the smallest motions possible to avoid touching the reef but it was no use, my wrists ended up scraping the reef and getting cut. I could feel the sting of touching the wrong thing making me more panicked. I had to keep my movements so small while also trying to get out. When I finally got to shore my arms and wrists were bleeding profusely from whatever it was on the reef I scraped against in order to avoid hurting the reef. I was all alone, rinsing my wounds in the showers. He showed up on the shore later with his friend who had apparently come join him to go surfing in “a better spot” - that’s why he unceremoniously left me in spite of all warnings and instructions. I cried to him and showed him my bleeding arms and wrists and he yelled at me for embarrassing him in front of his friend and making a big deal about nothing. I still have scars from the reef to this day, 17 years later. It took me years to recognize the gaslighting and absurdity.

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This reminds me of the story about the guy that took his wife to the middle of the ocean and just pushed his wife of the boat. She tried to swim back to the boat but a shark got her and k***ed her. Back then these instances were really acknowledged or heard of so they thought it was just an accident or horseplay. Now he travels the world preaching about respecting the ocean which is a mockery to me.

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When I was about 9 my sister had severe behavioral problems and was 3 years younger then me. One night she kept pestering me at bedtime and wouldn’t let me sleep. I told my dad a few times that she was disturbing me it went on for more then an hour and the last time I told him he threatened me. So I took matters into my own hands and slapped the sh*t out of her. Obviously not a good thing but when my dad found out what I did he made me pack my bag at like 10:30-11pm at night. He drove me out Of town to somewhere I had never been. I found out when I was older it was an old abandoned retirement/assisted living home. He told me I was going to “girls town” where bad girls go and he told me to get my bag and to get out of the car and sit and wait till morning and someone would come out to get me. I’ve probably never been more scared in my entire life. I sat there for what felt like hours crying and waiting and shivering. It was fall and probably 50 degrees and pitch black outside beside

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