A woman has left people online horrified after admitting she feels the need to "emphasise" her curvy body shape to men on dating apps before she meets up with them in person - because she knows they'll criticise her if she doesn't look the way they expected.
Tina shared a video on TikTok in which she explained that if she doesn't make her body shape clear enough to her prospective dates ahead of time, they will often call her a "catfish" and accuse her of lying, simply because she doesn't meet the expectation they'd built up in their heads.
And even though Tina has pictures of herself on her dating profiles, the men she goes on dates with still don't seem to understand how she is going to look in real life.
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In her video, Tina, who posts under the username @lighthousetinaa, said: "I know I'm not the only one that does this.
"When I meet a new guy on a dating app, I literally spend a good amount of time making sure that he knows the level of thickness that I am.
"So that when he meets me, he's not going to say: 'Oh my gosh, she's a catfish.' Because nowadays if you don't meet the guy's perception that he's portrayed of you in his head, apparently you're not authentic on the dating app.
"So it's like, I always feel like I have to do that like it's second nature. In the back of my mind, I'm like, I've got to let him know straight up, the yams are here, the rolls are in the oven and the cake batter is thick.
"I know what you're thinking - just show him a picture. No. Apparently, pictures aren't good enough, you have to really emphasise the thickness."
Commenters on the video - which has over 53,000 likes - were shocked that the flight attendant would feel the need to prove her worth to others, with many saying she shouldn't have to "emphasise" her body shape before meeting people.
One person said: "Girl you don’t have to emphasize anything. These dudes can take it or leave it. And if they leave it, you don’t want them anyway."
But others admitted they've been through similar things as curvy women on dating apps, as they hit out at the double standards that allow some people to lie about having other partners while looking for love online.
Someone wrote: "I feel like we’re preparing them for the clearest possible reality and meanwhile they lie about whole families and missing limbs."
As someone else posted: "Relatable as f**k. I had one guy who was into big girls give me examples of what he thought 'big' was because sometimes their big doesn’t match my big."
While a third said: "I do this but then it’s like he forgets that I gave him a vivid description and he looks at me like he wasn’t expecting ME."
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