A woman has turned to the internet for advice after he husband invited his ex-wife and kids on their couples getaway. The woman was left wondering whether she was being unfair by wanting to go away as a couple without their children, in laws and her husband's ex-partner.
The wife suggested a trip to Spain as Coronavirus restrictions are easing so that they could spend some quality time together after not being able to go away for a few years due to the pandemic.
In the post to MumsNet she says her husband then suggested that they also take his parents, children who are in their 20's, their partners and his ex wife. She asked: "Am I being unreasonable for thinking that won't be a holiday?" You can get more stories like this by subscribing to our newsletters here.
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She added that she and her partner have been married for 12 years, he's been divorced for 15 years, and he wanted a big family holiday like they used to have.
While they do get on, she said: "We've been away for family weddings as a big group and graduations and it works ok for a weekend."
In the post she said that while her husband thinks it will be fun, she doesn't want to go on their first post lockdown holiday worrying about what other people want to do.
She said: "He’ll think it’s fun, and to be honest, they are good company, but the cooking, the organising, the fact his kids don’t lift a finger. He won’t want to do every shop and the cooking. I just want to go away for a week and not worry about what other people want to do.
"I'm considering just leaving him to it. Am I being unreasonable to think I can't be a***d with all that?"
She asked for the advice of the other mums as to whether she should go on the holiday and allow the in laws, children and ex wife to come or whether she just let them go alone. In the comments one person said: "Just tell him openly that you want a relaxing holiday with just the two of you to recharge and reconnect and perhaps a big family holiday can be on the cards next year. Don't give up on your own wishes."
Whilst another commented: "Sorry, he wants to take his ex, their children, their children’s other halves and his parents on holiday? Oh, and you? I don’t know your family dynamic but that sounds bonkers and like you’d be the outsider. Or does he expect you to be cook and cleaner for them all while they kick back and don’t lift any of their fingers?"
One mum said: "Tell him what you've told us. Sounds like he's thinking of a villa, all under one roof? That would be my ideal of hell, very far from a relaxing break. Maybe if you went on a full or half board package deal it would be much better."
