Hanging out with friends is one of those singular joys in life that can’t really be replicated by anything else. But as times change, so do one’s interests, as many people at some point have that horrible realization that perhaps you and your long-term friends no longer have as much in common as before.
A woman decided to tell her friends the truth, that she didn’t want to go on a girl’s trip because the topic of discussion was always marriage and babies. We reached out to the woman who shared the story via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
Sometimes, the interests and preferences of a group of friends can change
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One woman decided to skip a girl’s trip because of the constant baby-talk
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Having a child or getting married can feel like the most important thing in the world if it’s happening to you
A clear sign of the passage of time is when you start to notice that more and more of your friends use words like “birth specialist” or “fiancé.” Unfortunately, once these kinds of topics take hold, they don’t just disappear overnight. After all, generally, getting married or having a kid isn’t just some fad that comes and goes.
This is by no means bad, if you are having a child soon, it would almost be strange to not talk about it, particularly with others in a similar situation. This is also just as true for someone who is getting married. However, like many new parents posing a constant stream of baby pictures online, some folks really overestimate just how much (or little) the rest of us care.
The real issue here isn’t that the woman doesn’t want to talk about babies all trip, it’s that her friends can’t seem to understand her side of it. If we take a step back, it’s important to remember that a core part of any friendship is honesty and communication. If your friends of eight years can’t handle you not wanting to talk about babies, that is a bit strange. It’s not a roommate situation, where a conflict-averse person often suffers in silence, after all.
After all, the woman didn’t decide to attend and bar any conversation she didn’t like, she took the significantly more mature route and decided to remove herself. It is telling that she seems to have known her preferences would not go over well, as initially she didn’t even give a reason for not attending. There are reasons to not be entirely honest, even with friends, but this should not have been as big a deal.
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Sometimes people think their lives are more interesting than they really are
It’s also important to note that she wasn’t just going solely because of the baby talk, as she wrote that the trip was a sizable expense. Even if it’s affordable, most of us don’t enjoy spending money on experiences we do not actually like. Unless you are a picky eater, you can probably finish most meals you’ve ever been served, but you wouldn’t exactly go out of your way to reserve a table at a restaurant and pay good money for it.
It’s easy to see how the pregnant friend might be offended by this, as it’s something one can take the wrong way pretty easily. However, this all raises the question, if these women had been friends so long, why couldn’t they see eye to eye on what isn’t actually that big of an issue? Generally, if your friend says that some place makes them feel bad about themselves, you wouldn’t think twice about telling them not to go.
Fortunately, as the woman shared in the update, this one issue did not end up being the reason for some sort of split in the friend group. All in all, examples like this can serve as a reminder that the things which seem vitally important to us might be boring or even downright annoying for others. Sometimes you can’t expect the world to bend over backwards to be as excited as you.
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