If you've got younger siblings, then you'll probably understand the frustration that comes with your parents deciding to prioritise their needs over yours - especially while they're still young.
And one woman has said that's exactly what's happened to her, as her mum and dad have decided to completely ignore her own wishes for her upcoming birthday in order to book a trip that her sister will enjoy.
The 22-year-old woman said she'll be turning 23 in a couple of months, and her parents have booked a family trip to Disneyland Paris, even though she told them in December that she didn't want to go.
Her parents have argued that her little sister - whose age she didn't fully disclose but stated she was between seven and 10 - has never been to Disneyland before, so they booked the trip to accommodate her.
To make matters worse, the woman was also hoping to bring her fiancé with her on her birthday holiday, but he also doesn't want to go to Disneyland so won't be coming with them.
In a post on Reddit, the woman said: "So my parents dropped this on me that they will take me to Disney with my younger sister for my birthday in a couple of months. They have already booked the Disney tickets.
"The problem is, I already told them around Christmas time that my fiancé and I didn't want to go to Disney. They mentioned that my sister hasn't gone yet and left the conversation at that. They have done things like this before where they planned things for me without my consent and it's caused a lot of pain.
"I do understand how I could be the a**hole since they're paying for my trip AND flight, and how I may be privileged to go. The issue I have with Disney is that I'm neurodivergent and I have sensory issues (such as noise bothering me and huge crowds). If that wasn't a big issue I would probably go willingly, but if I have to I can handle it.
"Even if I choose to go, my fiancé won’t come with me which is also a big part of why I don't want to go, but I don't know if it's right to feel that way. I'm not sure if I would still go even if my fiancé wasn't in the picture.
"If I choose to go, it may also set the precedent that they can just keep planning these things. If I do go, could I go without being miserable? I'm also not sure how to respond because my relationship with them has been strained since in the past they haven't respected my boundaries."
And commenters on the post were firmly on the birthday girl's side, as many of them pointed out her parents were prioritising her sister's feelings over her own.
One person said: "They want this for your little sister, not for you. It's manipulative to use your birthday as a cover. Don't go if you don't want to. They can let your sister bring a friend in your place."
While another added: "They didn't get you a present, they bought your sister a trip to Disney and used your birthday gift money to subsidise it."
And a third wrote: "They didn't actually consider you when planning. They planned this because they and your sister wanted to go and used your birthday as an excuse/opportunity.
"You're under no obligation to put yourself under the stress to go. You told them straight up you did not want this and they spent the money anyway. If they're mad they did it to themselves. Plan something with your fiancé that makes you guys happy."
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