Voices: Why am I always attracted to emotionally unavailable people?

This image released by Netflix shows Ambika Mod, left, and Leo Woodall in a scene from the Netflix mini-series One Day: charting the search for affection and understanding between two unlikely lovers (Netflix via AP) - (ASSOCIATED PRESS)

Dear Vix,

I don’t seem to be able to stop myself being attracted to emotionally unavailable people. It’s starting to feel like a pattern. The thing is: I don’t know they’re emotionally unavailable from the outset – if I did, I would avoid, avoid, avoid! So I don’t understand how I keep choosing the wrong people... or the same kinds of people.