Laila Hakim has sparked a massive debate on TikTok after uploading a video on August 7, where she outlines seven specific behaviors she classifies as cheating, Daily dot reported. The video has gained significant traction, racking up over 314,000 likes and 3,500 comments as of the time of publication.
She opens the video by shutting down potential critics, stating, “Don’t justify being unloyal [sic].” She makes it a point to clarify that she views these standards as applicable to both partners in a relationship, regardless of gender.
Her list starts with a behavior she considers an obvious violation, which involves sending direct messages or snapping random women while in a relationship. She moves on to her second point, which is repeatedly viewing a stranger’s profile. Hakim notes that she feels sympathy for the partners of men who engage in this, bluntly stating, “That’s embarrassing. Don’t embarrass your girlfriend.”
The third behavior on her list involves deleting messages
Hakim questions the reasoning behind deleting conversations, noting that unless it is spam, there should be no reason for it. She is quick to clarify that she is not talking about family members, saying, “I don’t give a f— about your sister’s text.” Instead, her concern is focused on conversations with unfamiliar people. Her fourth example is continuing to talk to someone who has previously expressed romantic interest in a partner. She labels this as “disgusting” and tells viewers to “get out of here” if they engage in such behavior.
@ulovelailahakim here the unloyal hos come to fight in my comments #fyp #foryou #relateable
♬ original sound – Laila hakim
Liking suggestive photos of other women is her fifth point. She specifically mentions that she is not talking about something benign like a dog picture, and she believes most women would agree with her perspective on this.
The sixth behavior involves entertaining a conversation with someone at a bar without disclosing that you are in a relationship. Hakim feels that this situation should be met with a firm refusal to engage. Finally, she lists maintaining a “work girlfriend” as her seventh point, noting that she would require “a long sit down conversation” with her partner if that ever happened in her own life.
The reaction in the comments section has been intense, as viewers struggle to agree on where the line sits between simple disrespect and actual cheating. Some users argued that the definition of cheating should remain focused on physical or romantic involvement. One commenter wrote, “cheating means kissing, having sex or being involved romantically with someone else. other things are disrespectful and shouldnt be done while in a relationship but that doesn’t mean its cheating. [sic]”
Others felt that the definition should be much broader. One user suggested that attraction itself is the issue, writing, “Someone’s gotta agree with me here, if she is looking at other guys abs, biceps, back muscles, in an attractive way. THAT IS CHEATING.” Another commenter focused on the action behind the attraction, noting, “I definitely think that it’s a natural response to find someone attractive but if you act on it or verbally say it to your partner that’s 100% cheating.”
The conversation even turned toward the fairness of these standards. One commenter challenged the logic regarding suggestive photos, writing, “So if liking a girls bikini pic is cheating would posting a bikin pic be cheating?”
