It’s always the same script. You talk about the dirty dishes in the sink. He brings up that time you were late three weeks ago. Suddenly, you’re not talking about dishes anymore. You are locked in a familiar, painful cycle. You both say things you regret. You end up angry and distant. Why does this happen? Couples repeat the same arguments because they are rarely about the topic at hand. These recurring fights are actually about deeper, unmet emotional needs.
