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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Annabel Lee

The one change that worked: I felt like an outsider in my village – until I found a simple way to connect

A woman wearing a dark top sits at a table full of gifts with a field behind her
‘It started with the PTA’ … Annabel Lee at a school fete. Photograph: Sarah Lee/The Guardian

I live in a fairly average town in Oxfordshire, and despite having friends and family nearby, I never felt as if I was properly a part of the community. I didn’t feel rooted, or that I knew my neighbours beyond a quick hello. I moved here in my late 20s with my partner and spent a lot of time at home. In my 30s, I got a dog, had children and started working from home.

As a result, I spent a lot more time in my local area, but I still felt like an outsider. At this point in my life, where I was focused on building a family and setting down my own roots, this lack of connection made me feel isolated – until I started volunteering.

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