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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Lifestyle
As told to Doosie Morris

The moment I knew: I saw her enjoying herself in her perfect little witch’s hat and I was a goner

Jessie Steph Tisdell
Jessie and comedian Steph Tisdell on Christmas Day, 2025.
‘The first time we met was in a dark park after work – something we joked you could never do with a bloke’: Jessie and Steph Tisdell on Christmas Day, 2025 Photograph: Supplied

In my early 30s I’d decided I didn’t want to swipe right on another man holding a fish on dating apps and I was taking tentative steps into the world of dating women in my home base of Brisbane.

Things hadn’t got off to a great start and as I tried to refine my approach, a friend posed a question that I’d foolishly never really considered: what did I actually want in a partner?

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