I couldn’t agree more with Moya Sarner (No, age isn’t just a number – and the sooner we realise that, the happier we will be, 14 July). One of the article’s key messages is that time and tide wait for no man – a phrase dating back to Chaucer in 1395, yet still resonant today. Sarner suggests that those who resist the natural passage of time often find less contentment than those who embrace life’s stages with maturity and flexibility. It’s a timely reminder that each chapter of life holds intrinsic value and that real growth isn’t about clinging to youth but about evolving into deeper, more authentic versions of ourselves.
The phrase “age is just a number” might sound harmless enough, but as Sarner cautions, overreliance on such slogans can mean we miss out on the richness that comes with ageing and change. Resistance to emotional maturation and personal growth isn’t just a gen Z or millennial problem – it spans all generations. As a trainee psychotherapist (and undergoing personal therapy myself), I’ve seen how powerful it is to root oneself in the present. The goal of psychotherapy isn’t to discard the playfulness or idealism of youth but to integrate those qualities into a grounded adult self. No book, podcast or clever quote can shortcut the real work of growing up – emotionally, spiritually and psychologically.
