Should I want more sex? Less sex? Get wetter? Sleep only with men? Sex therapist Kate Moyle has banned the word ‘should’ from her therapy room. No more ‘should sex’, she commands.
According to Moyle, we all grow up with messages — some patent, some completely invisible — about what sex ‘should’ look like. These messages seep into our unconscious through films, what we read online, porn, magazines and advertisements, and in the absence of proper sex education, end up forming the basis of what we think sex should be like and hence what kind of sex we feel we should be having.
