Honesty is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. No matter how tempting it may be to bend the truth to impress someone you like, honesty is always the best policy. Even if you’re not interested in someone you’re on a date with, lying to get out of the situation is only going to make you look bad. And your server might end up making a TikTok about the situation…
Zeke Gomez recently shared a video online detailing what he witnessed on what he assumed was an awkward first date gone wrong. Below, you’ll find all of the details, as well as some of the comments viewers shared trying to get to the bottom of why this man abandoned his date.
This server witnessed what he assumed was an awkward first date while working
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But he couldn’t help but feel bad for the woman who ended up getting stuck with the bill
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Unfortunately, it’s very common for people to bend the truth on a first date
If you want to get out of a situation, your first impulse may be to lie. “Sorry, my mom’s calling!” Or maybe you’ll use the old, “Oh no! A family emergency!” There’s also the classic: “I’m really not feeling well; I think I need to stay home and rest.” We all know that we shouldn’t be lying, but we tend to forget that when we find ourselves in an uncomfortable situation that we’re itching to escape.
If you’ve ever been on a bad date, you’ve likely felt the impulse to flee. According to research from Britannia Rescue, daters will typically only suffer through 51 minutes of an excruciating date before coming up with an excuse to leave.
Over a fifth of those surveyed admitted that they’ve left a bad date halfway through, as it takes most of us only 25 minutes to decide whether we’re interested in the other person or not.
But even if someone doesn’t want to run away from their date, there’s a good chance that they haven’t been completely honest with them. One survey found that a whopping 61% of people bend the truth when on a first date. Women are typically prone to lying about their age, whereas men tend to lie about their income.
18% of men surveyed admitted that they’ve also lied about their previous relationships and/or marriages on first dates. So take everything that you hear with a grain of salt, ladies!
Meanwhile, 14% of women say that they’ve lied about their name. Perhaps that’s for safety reasons, or perhaps it’s because 68% of women would rather be hanging out with their friends than going on a date.
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If your date is hiding something, it’s possible that they’re already in a relationship
As far as why this particular man skedaddled out of the date that Zeke was watching, we have no way of knowing the truth. But some viewers theorized that he may have been cheating, and he suddenly realized that he was going to be caught. Maybe he saw someone he knew in the restaurant, or he got a text from his wife asking where he was.
We don’t know this man, but we do know that statistically, about 23% of men admit to cheating on their partner. However, it’s possible that more are guilty, they just aren’t reporting their behavior.
If you’re ever suspicious that someone you’re seeing is already in a relationship or married, YourTango has some signs to look out for. First, they note that it’s suspicious if he won’t tell you his full name or divulge many details about where he works or his personal life.
If he doesn’t save your number under your name in his phone, that’s also a huge red flag. He might also be extremely protective of his phone, never leaving it out when you’re around, if he has something to hide.
He may be cheating if he’s hesitant to be with you in public or refuses to go public with your relationship. And if he barely ever talks about commitment or the future, that might be a sign that he’s envisioning a future with someone else.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Why do you think this man suddenly left his date with the bill? Feel free to weigh in. Then, if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article discussing similar relationship drama, look no further than right here.
Viewers sympathized with the woman, and some theorized about why the man abruptly left
