A groom-to-be has landed himself in hot water after he asked his fiancée to ditch her glasses in favour of contact lenses for their upcoming wedding - because he thinks it'll make her "look nicer".
The anonymous man posted on Reddit to ask if he was in the wrong for his request, as he explained that when he first met his wife-to-be, she almost always wore contacts instead of glasses.
However, the woman later developed a sty in her eye that made wearing contacts for multiple days painful, so she swapped back to wearing glasses for the sake of her eye health.
But because the man "prefers" his partner in contacts over glasses, he asked if she would be willing to go back to contacts for their wedding day - to which she said he was "destroying her self image".
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In his post, he said: "My fiancée and I are engaged and getting married in a couple of weeks. She has pretty bad vision, so needs contacts/glasses in order to function.
"For the first two years of our relationship, she preferred contacts 100% of the time, then developed a little sty in her right eye that made it uncomfortable/unhealthy to wear contacts for multiple days, so she switched to glasses. It still hasn’t gone away, but it’s gotten significantly smaller. She still wears glasses to try and not aggravate it.
"On a couple of occasions like getting nice pictures taken or a significant holiday, she switched back to contacts on her own to look nicer. She knows I prefer her in contacts, and I thought she preferred that look as well.
"Cut to a couple of days ago, I ask her if she’s gonna wear contacts or glasses for our wedding. She says she’s leaning strongly toward glasses. I stuff down my surprise and just go 'okay!' and move on. I couldn’t get over it, and she and I have established on multiple occasions how much we value open and honest communication, even if it’s hurtful.
"Last night I asked if she would reconsider wearing contacts. She became quite offended and said I just destroyed her self image since I’m clearly implying she looks better in contacts but hasn’t really worn contacts in almost a year. She also said that now, if she chooses to wear glasses, she’s going to be self-conscious.
"I emphasised that it’s totally up to her what she wears, but it was weighing on me and I didn’t wanna play mind games or hide my feelings so I told her."
The man also offered further context as he explained that his fiancée actually only wanted a simple courthouse wedding but was talked into a big event by the bloke and his family.
And with the added comment about her glasses, the woman now feels as though she isn't allowed to have her own say in what she wears or does on her wedding day.
He added: "I’m the one that wants a wedding with our family and friends, she always just wanted a courthouse wedding. She compromised and we’re doing a wedding with friends and family.
"She showed her wedding dress to my mum who reacted negatively, which really hurt my fiancée. My mum apologised to her the next day before I even got a chance to say something to her, but still. Also, I messed up and didn’t consult her before ordering my suit for the big day.
"Because of this and all the stuff I outlined above, she feels like she didn’t get to have an opinion on what I wear, but everything about what she’s wearing has been criticised by me and/or my family."
Commenters on the Reddit post were quick to side with the bride-to-be, with many of them pointing out that the man hasn't been taking his partner's feelings into account while planning their big day.
One person said: "How is this 'weighing on you'? They're glasses! It's her damn decision and you need to get the hell over it because you're manipulating her into wearing contacts. You're marrying her, she ought to be the most beautiful woman in the world to you regardless of what she's wearing or whether she's been having the flu for a week."
While another added: "If you don't think she'll look good enough to marry in glasses you don't deserve to marry her."
And a third wrote: "You told her you to prioritise an aesthetic she knows she can't reach consistently over her comfort. She's right to be mad."
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