A Scots woman whose depression turned out to be Alzheimer's was given a day of 'freedom' before her family told her about her diagnosis
Mum Linda Sutherland, from Erskine, was diagnosed with the disease weeks before her 60th birthday, after suffering from a short temper, weight loss and memory loss.
The 68-year-old blamed the changes on depression after the death of her husband Ronnie.
But son Graeme Sutherland, 31, thought something else was behind it.
He first noticed something was wrong when he took her to the Harry Potter Studios for her birthday and she got very upset when she couldn't take a photo.
After the trip, he took his mother to the doctors, and she was diagnosed with a progressive stage of Alzheimer's.
Graeme and sister Kirstin, 31, a nurse, were devastated, confused, and unsure what to do next.
Kirstin gave their mum one last day of "freedom" before they told her about her diagnosis.
Graeme, a claims manager from Glasgow, said: "My mum had been receiving counselling for depression but nothing was getting better - it was getting worse.
"I took her to London for her birthday. I knew something wasn't right.
"She was wearing dirty clothes, she had lost a lot of weight and she was getting upset easily.
"It was a shock when we were told she had Alzheimer's, especially after we got told she hadn't got it to begin with."
On the family trip to London in 2016, he noticed his mother spraying deodorant in her shoes, wearing unclean clothes, and she could not understand how to press a button when on a trip to the Harry Potter Studios.
After the trip, he took his mother to the doctors, and she was diagnosed with a progressive stage of Alzheimer's.
Graeme's sister, Kirsten, phoned up to try to book an appointment to find out their mum's results.
An appointment would be two months away, so Kirsten asked if she could find out about the results as the next of kin.
Kirsten broke the news - a day after they found out, to give Linda one last day of "freedom".
Graeme said: "Kirstin wanted to give her one last day of being carefree.
"I think my mum knew. She was upset about it but straight away very cooperative and helped us see what support is out there.
"The way my mum reacted she knew something wasn't right - this was the final confirmation."
Graeme and his sister, started taking turns caring for their mum, with one of them being by her side 24 hours a day.
He said: "It was very challenging. It made us grow up very quickly.
"It has made me realise that life is way too short. It has drained me and my sister quite a bit both physically and mentally.
"We were in our early 20s at the time. We lost a large sum of our life but I wouldn't change it for the world."
Dementia is a significant cause of disability in people aged over 60, according to Alzheimer Scotland.
Linda has been in a care home for around a year.
Graeme said it was "selfish" to keep their mum at home for so long.
He added: "It is difficult to watch someone so ill every time you visit - it is the long goodbye.
"I know I have a parent, but she is no longer there.
"I go to see her between two and three times a week. There is someone with her every single day.
"She is fine being alone, but you can't help but feel guilty.
"On reflection, it was more of a selfish point of view that we didn't want my mum to go into a care home - it is better for her to be in a home.
"I think her condition got a lot worse during the pandemic. I saw a rapid decline in her.
"She is now losing her speech. She speaks like the characters from the Sims game - making words and noises that don't make sense."
Graeme said it isn't all "doom and gloom" and that his mum is living her life "blissfully unaware" of what is going on.
He said: "We do have good times.
"She is getting worse but she is very happy - she just sits and watches TV, sings away and gets involved with activities."
Graeme is an Alzheimer Scotland social ambassador and is trying to raise awareness on his TikTok @graemefs.
He said: "Alzheimer's always falls under the radar as an old persons disease but it is really common now.
"It is getting younger and younger with Bruce Willis being diagnosed it is coming into the mainstream.
"Sadly, it is just something that not many people know about, I want to educate people on the different stages."
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