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Nia Dalton

OAPs share secrets to finding love - including 'don't sit at the back of the cinema'

Valentine's Day is officially on the horizon - but before any singletons head off on dates this week, pensioners across the UK have shared their ultimate advice.

With an average age of 90 and decades of marriage between them, Lottie's care home residents certainly know a thing or two about finding love and long-lasting relationships.

So they've come together to share their top tips for going on first dates - from avoiding the back row of the cinema to taking your time and always remembering to laugh.

First up is 91-year-old Ann with her golden advice: "Don't jump into bed! Go for a meal where you can chat and get to know each other."

Ann has some wholesome advice for Valentine's Day (Lottie Care Homes)
Alex says parents rightly don't belong on dates (Lottie Care Homes)

"Go for a romantic meal. Don't bring your parents," Alex, 86, advised, while 86-year-old Colin said: "Treat her like a lady."

Then there's 93-year-old Stanley who said it's important to "always be loyal and faithful to your partner", and Jean, 96, who believed you should only give a good night's kiss.

Always up for a good time, 83-year-old Pam said youngsters should "chat normally, then dance" and Elizabeth, 91, strictly said: "Don't sit in the back row of the cinema."

Colin wants daters to be respectful and polite (Lottie Care Homes)
Stanley's advice for finding love is just lovely (Lottie Care Homes)

Eileen, 95, was a little more specific about her perfect first date and said: "Do make them pay (if they can't the first time - not worth it). Don't let them go too far."

Don and Jean, who have been married for 72 years and went to the Palladium in London for their first date, passionately believe the secret is to "put your phone down and have a chat together".

Beryl, a 93-year-old resident at Billericay's Anisha Grange Care Home, met her husband at a dance hall in Liverpool and said "it wasn't love at first sight but it developed over time".

Jean says a kiss is all you need to give on Valentine's (Lottie Care Homes)
Eileen thinks it's only right if they pay for the first (Lottie Care Homes)

Her husband had a good sense of humour and Beryl thinks that's most important when picking your future life partner.

Another lady named Beryl met her husband when she was 13 year old and he was 15 at their local church youth group.

They got married when Beryl was 22 and had nearly 60 long and happy years together. Beryl's advice to younger generations looking for love is to "take your time and don't rush".

Don just wants you to put away your phones (Lottie Care Homes)
And Beryl says it's important to take things slow (Lottie Care Homes)

Chris Donnelly, cofounder at Lottie, said: "From first date etiquette to the secrets to a lasting relationship there's lots we can learn from older generations.

"There's something so special about hearing about these stories of love in our care homes.

"Love is something most of us search for in our lifetime - and it's great to hear the funny, inspiring, and heart-warming tips our residents have for younger generations when it comes to finding your perfect match.

"From friendships, relationships, and companionship there's lots of ways you can spread love this Valentine's Day to support both your own and the wellbeing of others - especially those more vulnerable."

Do you have advice for singletons this Valentine's Day? Let us know in the comments.

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