A woman whose husband had an affair with someone else for several years says she was surprised to discover the pair were still texting each other but says their messages are "completely platonic."
According to the perturbed wife, her husband broke off the affair some five months ago "as he finally woke up", and she's confident that he's no longer being unfaithful.
She claims the affair was a "one-off", and that her husband had never seriously intended to leave his family for the younger woman, who she admits she "almost feels sorry for."
Ever since the affair came to light, the couple has been working through their issues together, and things are apparently going well. She's been reassured by the fact that the mistress has since moved away, and believes it's unlikely their paths will ever cross again.
However, the woman has been left puzzled after learning the former lovers are still texting and doesn't understand why they would remain in contact despite never seeing each other in person.
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According to the perplexed wife, she had a peek at his phone as it "kept blowing up", and realised that they were still in contact.
Reaching out to fellow Mumsnet users, she wondered what on earth could be going on, emphasising that the messages weren't of a sexual nature.
She wrote: "Completely platonic messages. Nothing romantic. Nothing sexual. If I didn't know who it was, I would just think it was an old friend catching up.
"There was a mention of how it's been five months since they last saw each other (hence why I know they haven't met up)."
However, as innocent as the messages appear to be, they've still made her feel anxious, and she just can't fathom any reason why they'd still be messaging each other all these months on.
The unnamed woman - who goes by the username user25415 - continued: "Why do men stay in touch with their ex-mistresses even though they never see each other? Are they really just maintaining a friendship? Why can't he let her go?
"If he did want to start an affair with her again, he's never going to see her and he'll never leave us all for her so what's the point? What does he achieve?"
Fellow Mumsnet users have since come forward with their own thoughts on this matter, with many warning her that her husband is behaving in a very disrespectful manner.
One person wrote: "He's carrying on an emotional attachment, he hasn't walked away from her even if he's not s******* her anymore.
"Personally, I wouldn't trust him a) because he had an affair for years and b) because he is maintaining an emotional attachment after claiming to end it."
Another cautioned: "They probably have a genuine emotional attachment. It sounds like maybe a 'split self' affair, so he has almost two different lives going on.
"These types of affairs rarely end with him leaving the marriage, but he's only half in it really, isn't he? Up to you if that's enough for you or not."
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