My husband is always on his iPad. I miss him. How can I ask for screen-free time together?

‘He might not know how you feel about this unless you tell him,’ writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Painting: The Orange Trees by Gustave Caillebotte. Photograph: SJArt/Alamy

My husband is on his iPad or his phone a lot. It is the last thing he does before bed and the first thing he reaches for in the morning.

We have a toddler and are pretty good at sharing childcare, but the minute I appear after work he gets his iPad out. It grates on me more than I can say (especially if we are eating dinner that I’ve cooked). I get that parenting can be lonely and tedious and that he likes to unwind at the end of the day, but I want us to spend time together as a family.