A mother has taken to Mumsnet to raise concerns over her husband wanting to holiday without their children.
She said that her husband's request "really stressed her out" but she worried that she was overreacting.
There were mixed reactions to the post, with some parents sharing the concern and others relating to her husband.
Posting on the AIBU (Am I Being Unreasonable) forum, user lifeuphigh wrote that her DH (darling husband) has requested more time as a couple, including four weekends away per year without the children. She says they could leave their three children with their grandparents for the weekend.
She goes on to say that this request has "really stressed [her] out", and she does not like the thought of being away from the DC (darling children) overnight.
The post said: "Last night DH announced that he would like us to get more time as a couple, including 4 weekends away together each year. His parents live quite far away but would be happy to provide childcare.
"For some reason the whole thing really stressed me out. The DC are 8, 6 and 3 and I've had 3 nights away from them since the oldest was born, only 1 of which I actually enjoyed. I love going out for the day/evening with DH but for some reason I just don't like the thought of being away from the DC overnight. DH travels a lot for work so he is quite used to being apart from them for extended periods.
"I know I should feel grateful that we have the childcare offer, but I don't. Should I give my head a wobble or do other people feel like this too?!"
The question, posted on March 3, has picked up hundreds of reactions.
Some parents agreed with her fears. User Moita said: "I want to go on holiday as a family otherwise I'd have remained childless.."
ChoiceMummy commented: "Sounds excessive to me. Once or twice, maybe... But I want family time, otherwise why have children?"
Sandpapercoutesan added "The issue is that you don't feel comfortable doing it, and your DH wants to railroad you into it. I think it's incredibly personal, how and when you feel happy to be away from your children."
Other comments agreed with the user's husband.
LifeInAHamsterWheel said: "I agree with your DH that it's important for a couple to have quality time together (and it's hard to be intimate with 3 young kids around). An overnight in a nice hotel with a meal and no kids to worry about really does help put the spark back."
Hobbitfeet32 added: "Enjoying time away from you children does not make you a bad parent. Try thinking of it from the point of view of the children, they may love a weekend with grandparents."
Frederica852 commented: "I would kill for someone to offer me this! Fancy hotel, no kids, involved grandparents - sounds like exactly what most long term relationships could do with from time to time."
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