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Ugnė Bulotaitė

“Listen To Your Gut”: Netizens Advise Woman To Confront BF About Creepy Relationship With His 19YO

Seeing a person getting along with their parents is a nice sight for sore eyes. Yet, as with any other relationship in life, there are boundaries to be established there. And when these boundaries are crossed, well, the relationship doesn’t seem so wholesome anymore. 

Just like in today’s story, where a woman reached out to netizens because she’s creeped out by her boyfriend being close with his daughter. And not simply close – so touchy-feely close that it makes everyone around uncomfortable.

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What to do when you think you’re witnessing an overly intense relationship between a child and a parent?

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A woman feels that her partner is too close to his 19-year-old daughter she sits on his lap, they hold hands, and she can’t even make a decision without him

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Since their bond makes the woman uncomfortable, she went online to ask for advice should she confront them about it or leave it be?

The OP lives with her partner. Both of them have children from other relationships. Hers are two boys, 12 and 15 years old, while the partner has a 19-year-old daughter. She is already in university and comes over on holidays and so on. Despite her not being with the rest of the family full time, she’s fully integrated into their life.

Well, it’s nice to see a blended family getting along. After all, it isn’t uncommon for stepfamilies to face various challenges. For instance, having trouble accepting each other, parents having disagreements over different views on discipline, competition for attention, and many others. 

Even though they all get along nicely, it doesn’t mean that something in this dynamic isn’t troubling. For the author, it’s the fact that the partner’s daughter is a bit too close to him. 

Before moving in with the OP, the man and his daughter lived alone. The mom isn’t too involved in the daughter’s life; she already has a new partner and a new child. Now, the man lives with his girlfriend, while his daughter is off at university. Yet, they talk daily, sometimes even a couple of times a day. She fills him in on every detail that happens to her. So, you might think that speaking daily with her father isn’t too much, right? Well, that’s not all. 

The original poster thinks their relationship is too emotional and sometimes even too physical. She specified that it’s not intimate physicality, but still, it’s too much. For example, sometimes they’re very cuddly. She sits on his lap (remember, she’s 19), which looks kind of strange

They also sometimes hold hands while they are out. One time, someone mistook them for a couple, which mortified the man’s actual girlfriend. 

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If that isn’t enough, she also sometimes tries to play the OP off against her dad so she can have some time alone with him. Adding everything together, the author isn’t the only person who has noticed this strange bond – her sisters have too. 

What makes it all even more complicated is that the girl seems to be way more confident and even happier when her dad isn’t around. But since the woman doesn’t want to ruin her relationship, she’s never brought it up either to him or her. Basically, she turned to Mumsnet to get advice on what she should do. 

Some people there guessed that over-affection might be one of the girl’s characteristics. And maybe, in the future, when she gets a partner of her own, she might direct it to them. 

But others were more skittish. For these folks, the whole situation seemed off, just like it seemed to the OP. It’s normal, in fact, even beneficial, for a father and a daughter to have a relationship. It provides advantages such as emotional resilience, self-regulation, and many more. But in the case of this story, the bond seems to be a little over the top. 

After all, there should be some boundaries between a child and their parent. When it becomes the center of their existence and damages other relationships, it becomes a problem. And right now, this one is slowly becoming a problem in the OP’s life – she can’t stop worrying that they’re too close. If that continues, it’s bound to influence her relationship with a boyfriend in one way or another. 

So, quite a few netizens suggested the woman trust her gut and make a decision. Does she want to say something and risk ruining her relationship? Does she even want to stay in it with the possibility that their bond might never go away? Or does she want to run as fast as she can? Well, in cases like this, no one but the person themselves can make the decision. The OP will be the one to live with it, so it’s up to her to choose. 

What would you do if you were in the OP’s shoes?

Quite a few people were also unsettled by this relationship and suggested that the woman trust her gut and decide whether she wants to end it, let it continue, or simply bolt

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