It’s very common for people to share snippets of their relationship on social media, from photos of cute dates to couple holidays, for many, it’s all captured and immortalized in the digital shrines that are our Instagrams, Facebooks, TikToks and other such social media. But what does it mean if your partner doesn’t post you online at all? Is that normal? Or is it a red flag?
In a digital age, where everything being shared online is considered natural, it makes sense for people in a relationship to post pictures of their significant other. Many share snapshots from their lives on social media such as Instagram and a relationship is a pretty big part of a person’s life so why not? So if your partner isn’t posting pictures of you to their social media does it mean they don’t consider you a big enough part of their life? Not exactly.
What does it mean if your partner doesn’t post you to social media?
Not posting a partner can indicate a lack of commitment or a lack of effort and in many instances that is how it is perceived. It may indicate that the person not posting is embarrassed of their partner or even keeping their options open by intentionally appearing single to online suitors.
At least these are the fears that can creep into people’s minds from time to time. On Reddit, one individual asked whether their partner not posting them was a red flag, and while some answered that it could be bad news, plenty assured the user that they had nothing to worry about.
It’s not as bad as you think
The first thing to consider is how new your relationship is. If it’s still early days then your partner may be exercising caution. They may not want the relationship to end, but, as an article from Vice points out, it can be embarrassing to fill your feed with photos of yourself and a new partner, only for things not to work out and you have to delete those photos shortly afterwards.
Another important factor is how your partner interacts with social media. Are they a big-time poster? Do they spend a lot of time online? If social media isn’t really something that interests them or takes up much of their attention then perhaps the thought of posting their partner hasn’t even crossed their mind.
They may also not feel comfortable sharing personal things on social media, plenty of people use platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and Facebook to promote their businesses or side-hustles.
They may even assume you don’t want to be posted (although they shouldn’t unless you’ve told them). This is why communication is key and the best way to find out why they aren’t posting you is to ask them directly.
In some cases it can even be a green flag, if they’re prioritizing time together in real life that is a great sign. Plenty of people are also moving away from posting too much on social media so that could also explain it. Again, the best way to find out what’s going on is to speak with your partner about it.
