The circumstances need to be right for a threesome, and in truth there are a lot of variables when three people are involved. At relationship charity Relate, we do hear about situations where threesomes have gone wrong, and it is worth noting that this is not uncommon. But there are also people in strong, happy relationships who have introduced another person to the bedroom and it hasn’t been a problem. Some people have it on their bucket list and just want to try it once, whereas to others it becomes more of a lifestyle choice where they regularly hook up with other people.
If this is something you and your partner are considering, it is worth asking yourself and one another about your reasons for wanting this. If you are thinking of initiating a threesome as something to experience and enjoy together then it may be a fun and fulfilling adventure for you both. If, however, your motivation is that one of you isn’t feeling sexually satisfied or you have developed a strong emotional crush on the third person and prefer them to your partner, alarm bells should be ringing.
