A mother-of-four has been left frustrated by the decision of the police not to charge her former husband who she says raped her multiple times in her sleep. The 38-year-old woman said she was physically, verbally, sexually and emotionally abused during the four-year relationship with the man.
The Manchester Evening News is not revealing her identity because of the sensitivity of her allegations, but we are calling her Alison - not her real name. The M.E.N. has seen a non-molestation order made against her now ex-husband in the Family Court at Manchester and the statement in which she lists the catalogue of abuse.
Alison claims she was told by police who investigated her allegations that the Crown Prosecution Service had said there was not enough evidence to charge the alleged perpetrator. However, Greater Manchester Police have told the Manchester Evening News that the evidence they gathered "did not meet the threshold" for referral to the CPS.
The CPS has confirmed to the M.E.N. that the case was never referred to them. But now, Alison wants her allegations re-investigated.
"He raped me and sexually abuse me multiple times throughout our relationship," she said. "He raped me as I slept and then told me about it the following morning. I made it clear to him that I did not consent to this, but he continued to do it."
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She said he would make sick jokes about it, comparing himself to [American serial killer and rapist] Ted Bundy on some occasions. Alison said the "sick pervert" would not allow her to change items of her underwear as he wanted to keep them.
After he moved out of the home they shared in Rochdale in 2019, she found multiple items of her underwear stashed in plastic sandwich bags as well as a knife. "I reported this incident to the police," she said. "But nothing has been done."
Alison said her then-husband hit her in front of family and friends. On another occasion, on holiday, she says he trapped her in between a balcony door and pushed it into her, leaving her bruised.
"He pushed me multiple times throughout the relationship," she said. Alison said he would dislike her going out with friends and make up excuses, saying he couldn't cope with looking after the children.
She said her husband removed the doors on the bedrooms of her two daughters because he said they took too long to get ready. He also reprimanded them for using too much toilet roll as well as controlled her daughters' clothes and make-up.
Alison continued: "On certain occasions, he would turn up at my workplace and stare at me if he saw me speaking to male customers. His behaviour was so bad I had to leave my job."
She said he would often turn off the gas and electricity about every two weeks to try to drive her and her children out of the property. "He would then apologise and say that he loved me," she said.
"But he would repeat this behaviour. He was verbally and emotionally abusive throughout our relationship, towards both me and my children," she said.
"He would call me a 'bad mother' and say 'no wonder you've got no family'. He would call my autistic daughter a 'sp**' and say that she needed to live in a special home.
"My husband also called my other daughter a 'sl**' and my son 'gay' because he was not into football. He would shout at them and frighten them and get up in their faces."
Alison said her husband made racist remarks to locals while on holiday, "putting myself and the children at risk". One year, the family were on holiday in Spain.
She said her husband was drunk and verbally abusive towards her and her children and front of one of his own children too. "He also aggressive and trashed up the hotel and had to be escorted out of the hotel by hotel security," she said.
"Then he threw all our passports into the toilet in order to stop us returning from our holiday." Alison said her husband promised he would change and even attended counselling for his PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder].
However, his behaviour soon returned and he went back to being aggressive towards her and her children. She said that on August 22, 2019, he was extremely verbally abusive in front of all the children.
At that point, she contacted the police and her husband left the property on that day. A non-molestation order against him was granted on October 3, 2019.
Alison told the M.E.N. said she made a formal complaint against her now ex-husband on grounds of rape and controlling behaviour, on August 22, 2019.
"I eventually got a call from the investigating officer, saying the Crown Prosecution Service had decided not to proceed with the case," she said. "I don't understand why.
"Occasionally the police officer investigating my case would call me, but thinking I was someone else related to another case, which I think is appalling."
Alison said she was advised by the police to keep a diary of the abuse she and her children suffered. The M.E.N. has seen the diary.
"I did what they told me to do," said Alison. "But when I turned up for the video interview, they said they didn't need to see it. I don't understand why."
Detective Superintendent Nat Dalby of GMP’s Rochdale district said: “Caring for individuals who have made allegations and securing the best possible outcomes for those people is central to our purpose and our commitment to investigating and solving any crimes.
“In this case, the evidence available to us did not meet the threshold, set by the Crown Prosecution, for referral to themselves and so no further action was taken.
“I would like to use this opportunity to reassure members of the public that we treat allegations of domestic and sexual crimes with the utmost seriousness and carry out extensive enquiries to try to ensure that anyone guilty of offences is brought to face justice.”
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