My wife and I have had issues for almost the entirety of our relationship. For more than a decade, she has struggled with intimacy, compounded – we think – by a sexual assault 12 years ago. She then found out she was pregnant and, after an agonising wait, we confirmed the baby was mine and now have an absolutely incredible child together.
In the aftermath of all this, she had a combined diagnosis of PTSD and postnatal depression, during which time she ran up huge amounts of debt. She then had an affair with my best friend. I believe both were symptoms of her illness, but her behaviour since has prevented me rebuilding trust. I don’t think she is cheating on me, but I’m certain that in any choice between my happiness and her own, mine is considered less important and immediately discounted. I have now reached the point where I want to separate.
